Finding the right words to introduce yourself — whether you’re a surrogate or intended parent — can feel overwhelming. Taking the time to write your introduction can also help you spot important questions to ask yourself about the journey ahead.
If you’re not sure where to start, don’t worry. We’ve created two simple templates to help you share your story, your hopes, and what you're looking for in this journey.
Use them as a guide, tweak them to suit your voice, and remember: there’s no perfect way to do this. Just be yourself.
Hello everyone, I'm [Name] and [short sentence about why you want to be a surrogate, e.g. "I’ve always wanted to be a surrogate — helping someone grow their family would be the greatest gift I could give."]
A little about me:
- Age: [Your age]
- Children: [Number of kids, their ages and genders]
- Location: [City/region you're based in]
My baby history
- [How many pregnancies you've had, any relevant pregnancy/birth info — e.g., "All pregnancies went full-term, no complications."]
- [Type of births — e.g., "All vaginal births," "One C-section."]
- [Any medical support during pregnancy — e.g., "Needed iron infusions," "Physio during last pregnancy."]
- [How you feel about pregnancy — e.g., "Loved being pregnant!"]
A bit about me personally
- [Where you're from originally, and where you've lived]
- [A few hobbies or passions — e.g., "I love cooking, hiking, stand-up comedy, and deep conversations."]
- [Relationship/family situation if relevant — e.g., "I'm recently separated but on good terms," "I'm happily partnered."]
- [A few personality traits — e.g., "I'm kind, open, and honest. I value clear communication and a good laugh."]
- [Anything fun — e.g., "Warning: I can talk a lot about White Lotus"]
Expectations around contact and connection
During the surrogacy journey:
- [How much contact you’d like with IPs — e.g., "I'd love to build a friendly, open relationship with regular chats and updates, but also respect each other's space when needed."]
- [Expectations around appointments, communication style — e.g., "I'd like intended parents to be involved in appointments where possible. I value honesty and check-ins throughout the pregnancy."]
After the baby is born:
- [Contact expectations post-birth — e.g., "I'd love occasional updates and to know how the little one is going, but I understand and respect that the family will need time and space too." or “With no siblings of my own, I’d love to become an auntie to your little one!”]
- [Boundaries if needed — e.g., "I'm happy to discuss and agree on a level of post-birth contact that feels right for everyone."]
Why I'm exploring becoming a surrogate
[Short paragraph about what you're looking forward to — e.g., "I'm so excited to meet intended parents and be part of a journey that brings so much love and joy into the world."]
Hello everyone, we're [Name(s)] and [short sentence e.g. “We’re so excited to be here, hoping to find the right person to help us grow our family.”]
A little about us:
- Names: [Your names]
- Ages: [Your ages]
- Location: [City/region you're based in]
- Family setup: [E.g., "Married couple with one little boy, hoping to extend our family" "Single intended parent," "Same-sex couple," etc.]
- Pets (optional but sweet): [Any furry family members!]
Our journey so far
- [Brief summary of your fertility journey — e.g., "After several rounds of IVF and a few tough years, we've realised surrogacy is the right path for us."]
- [Why you chose surrogacy — e.g., "We are incredibly grateful for anyone considering this and see it as an amazing act of kindness."]
A bit about us personally
- [Where you're from originally, and where you live now]
- [A few hobbies or passions — e.g., "We love travelling, cooking big meals for family and friends, and lazy Sunday mornings with coffee, the pup and the paper."]
- [Anything fun or personality-related — e.g., "We love a good laugh and don’t take life too seriously."]
What we’re hoping for in a match
During the surrogacy journey:
- [Your hopes around communication — e.g., "We’d love to stay connected throughout, with regular updates, attending appointments where possible, and cheering you on every step of the way."]
- [How involved you’d like to be — e.g., "We want to be supportive without ever being overwhelming. We’re happy to take the lead from you on how much contact feels right."]
After the baby is born:
- [Contact expectations post-birth — e.g., "We’d love to stay in touch in a way that feels natural — whether that’s regular updates, catch-ups, or simply knowing you’re part of our family’s story."]
- [Any boundaries or flexibility — e.g., "We’re very open to finding a level of contact that suits everyone and grows naturally over time."]
Why surrogacy means so much to us
[Short paragraph about why growing your family is important to you — e.g., "Becoming parents has been our dream for years, and we’re ready to build a relationship with someone special who feels right to walk this path with us."]
